Mental health and wellness are key to our students’ overall health and wellbeing. Good mental health is as important as good physical health. Diagnoses of neurodiversity, anxiety, and depression together represent the most diagnosed mental health conditions among school-age children nationally. Those diagnoses become even more prevalent during the teen years. We experience all these conditions at Saint John’s Prep. Similar to national findings, both the number and severity of mental health conditions among Prep students has risen in recent years, calling out the need for us to prioritize mental health and wellness awareness and support programs.

The Wenner family is seen above: Joe Wenner ’63, Chris Wenner ’90, Rachel Wenner Ruzanic ’95, Michelle Wenner Chestovich ’92, †Gretchen Wenner Butler ’03, and Mary Legatt Wenner.

The Gretchen Wenner Butler Student Wellness Fund, created by the Joe and Mary Wenner family (Joe ’63, Chris ’90, Michelle ’92, and Rachel ’95) and named in honor of their daughter, 2003 Prep graduate †Gretchen Wenner, will sustain and expand mental health and wellness programs at Saint John’s Prep and support mental health awareness and education. This fund will allow Prep to better support the mental health needs of Prep students and underscores our commitment to providing a holistic and supportive learning experience at Saint John’s Prep.

Student Wellness Fund Objectives

The Student Wellness Endowment Fund will:

Sustain and expand the school’s mental health programs and activities to ensure they remain accessible, comprehensive, and tailored to the diverse needs of our student body.

Support mental health awareness and education by promoting mental health literacy and fostering a culture of open dialogue around mental health.

Support wellness activities, sustaining programming that provides students, faculty, and staff with opportunities to find balance and overall wellness in their lives.

We know that mental health challenges have and continue to deeply impact many in the Prep School community. As we approach the anniversary of Gretchen’s passing (March 5, 2021), we invite you to contribute to the Gretchen Wenner Butler Student Wellness Fund in support of this important work. More than simply honoring Gretchen’s memory, your support will leave a legacy of care and support for students for years and generations to come. Together, we can make an enormous difference in the lives of current and future Prep students. 

If you would like to make a gift today or in the future, please reference the Gretchen Wenner Butler Student Wellness Fund whether you make a gift online,  with a personal check, through a donor advised fund, executing a stock transfer, or requesting a distribution from an IRA. Gifts can be mailed to Saint John’s Prep, Box 4000, 2280 Watertower Rd, Collegeville, MN 56321. 

If you have questions or would like to learn more, please contact a member of our Advancement Department at 320-363-3315.

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Moderation
By Liam Spychala ’25

The following essay was shared during the November 30, 2023 Prayer Service by Liam Spychala ’25.
Saint John’s Prep hosts prayer services three times a month in which students learn about a faith focused topic. Students and faculty are invited to share their perspectives on the topic. The November 30 prayer service focused on Chapter 48 in the Rule of Benedict, focusing on living a life of balance and moderation.

Last week many of us celebrated thanksgiving with our family and friends. A time to be glad for
what we have. And it’s too bad the most thankful and grateful day of year is followed by what I
feel is the most gluttonous day on the calendar, Black Friday. A time where it is easy to get
caught up in all the things. This raises the question:

How can I limit myself from getting too caught up in all of the material goods
and these things in our lives?

Although getting things for ourselves can feel self-centered and uncaring, sometimes it is
necessary and ultimately unavoidable. Realizing where our own priorities lay can be achieved
with a little self reflection. Setting limits and thinking about how much stuff we really need. An
important piece to acknowledging this is comparing ourselves to each other. We do it
constantly, whether we like it or not.
For example, I’m certain my friend Paul has more pairs of jeans than I do. Moderation is all about
restraining ourselves from the unnecessary. Realizing that I don’t need more jeans just because
Paul has more jeans than I do would be an example of this.
By the way, this is not a thought that has actually ever crossed my mind, just a hypothetical. I don’t really think about how many pairs of jeans Paul has.

Examples of excess could be more clothes than you’ll ever actually wear, getting new shoes
just because the off white looks a little “too off white” for your taste, or having a million
products to make you look like you just stepped out of a magazine. And though I doubt you’ll
go home and donate half of your clothes, I hope this spurs you to think about what is important
to you and what is excess.

Gift Giving
I want to shift focus now to gift giving, and getting things for others, since that is what most
people are shopping for on Black Friday, and since we are nearing Christmas, which is
traditionally a time of gift giving.

When a person has many things already, or has everything that is necessary to daily life, we
often scramble to find gifts for them. A story of my grandpa comes to mind: Christmas Eve
day, he goes shopping with my dad looking for a gift for my grandma. Basically anything he
would see on the main aisle was a possibility.
“Here Jay, what do think of the jacket here, ooh Columbia Gear. Or here, what about this
perfume?” It was clear he had no idea what to get for her.

It is times like these where I think no gift at all is better than getting something impersonal and
unimportant. You may say, “Ah, Liam. You’re just cheap.” “Yeah, that’s true,” I would say. But I would also argue that the gifts most needed and least gifted are the ones we cannot see.

In my experience, we benefit most from our peers, our family, and our friends in times of need.
You cannot go to Walmart and buy familial support. You cannot go to Best Buy and get joy or
gratefulness. You cannot go to Costco and buy a pallet of friendship, as convenient as that
would be.
“Hey Jim, back for your friendship package?”
“You know it Dale, things have been a little rough lately, really got to patch it up nice before the holiday season.”

I agree with the sentiment that the occasional, well placed, thoughtful gift really does help lift
spirits and help us to think about others, but knowing when someone else needs important
things like food, shelter, and basic necessities and prioritizing that over dumb gifts for people
who will toss it aside in mid January is something that I think our communities can benefit
from. And there are different ways to do this. Maybe spending time with family and friends
instead of shopping or reaching out to people who you think might need some extra help,
especially as we are approaching finals are just two examples that came to mind.

Moderation is all about knowing when you have enough, but it is also about knowing when
others don’t have enough and using your extra for them rather than yourself. This is something
to think about as we approach this coming holiday season and our thoughts go to those who
are struggling.

Thank you!

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So, be slow if you must, but let
the heart still play its true part.
Love still as once you loved, deeply
and without patience. Let God and the world
now you are grateful. That the gift has been given.

Mary Oliver, “The Gift”

Dear Saint John’s Prep Community,

As we prepare for Thanksgiving and the rush to Christmas that will commence immediately after, we have a brief moment of quiet to reflect on the deeper meaning of the day and the Advent season that will follow.

More than any other time of year, this season draws us to consider both gift and gratitude – each inextricably intertwined with the other. When we think of gifts, we often think of objects wrapped and given. Things. But the root of the word gift is give. A verb. Gift and giving derive their power as actions, most often expressed in the form of friendship, solidarity, solace, empathy, and, most importantly, love. Giving is not a time or date or event-bounded activity, but rather a disposition toward life and community that involves the whole self. Still, powerful as they are, gift and giving remain incomplete without gratitude. Gratitude and thankfulness complete gift and giving. We are grateful for the opportunity to give love and grateful for the opportunity to receive it. Mary Oliver’s poem beautifully expresses that relationship and captures the essential truth not only of this glorious season but of all seasons.

On this Thanksgiving, I am grateful for the gift of our students and the curiosity, joy, and energy they bring to school each day. I am grateful for the gift of our marvelous faculty and staff who create remarkable educational experiences for our students. And I am grateful for the gift of the parents, family and friends who support our students and the school every day throughout the year. Family, community, gratitude, and love are the gifts that bind us. And for that, we give thanks.

Blessings for a wonderful Thanksgiving and Advent!

With gratitude,

Jon McGee
Head of School

Happy Thanksgiving!

Ben ’19, Nick ’18, Kate ’23, Andrew ’15, Ann, and Jon McGee

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